3 Tips For Interracial Couples Facing Judgment
We have come a long way since Martin Luther King had a dream and that dream has now become a reality in many ways. In other ways, there is still a lot of progress to be made.
Interracial dating has become common and most people do not really care about race when they like someone. Attraction and love knows no race. As they say “love is blind” which is absolutely true at this point in time. Interracial dating may seem like an enchanting tale of two people from different backgrounds and colors coming together to make love but sometimes they can find themselves facing a lot of judgment.
Judgment is nothing new, but it can be very disheartening for interracial couples. Unfortunately, we still have a long way to go before interracial couples will be as accepted as couples of the same race. This shouldn’t stop true love however. Follow these tips to make your interracial relationship stand the test of time and judgment.
1.Stop concerning yourself with others’ opinions
Everybody, no matter how much they say otherwise, care what people think about them to some degree. And that’s fine. This is what motivates us to do our best and look our best every day. In most cases, it’s positive motivation.
But in the case of interracial judgment, it becomes negative. Deciding not to care what people think about your interracial relationship is crucial. It might be hard at first, especially if the dissenters include your family and friends. The bottom line is that nobody’s opinion on your relationship should matter more than your own opinion and your partner’s opinion.
2.Build a strong relationship
Weak relationships break under pressure and as an interracial couple, you’ll be facing more pressure than most. Always remember what attracted you to your partner in the first place and let all the other politics of it fade away in your mind.
You’ll need a strong relationship to fight the prejudice. By showing people that interracial relationships can be strong, loving and secure just like any other relationship, you might even change a few minds about the matter.
3.Make effort to be a part of your partner’s family
This one can be difficult, especially if they’re extremely against your relationship. But in the case that they do grant you the opportunity to visit for a holiday or other event, make sure you show them that you’re willing to work with them in order to make your partner happy. Your partner should do the same.
By taking part in their customs and traditions and remaining as polite and friendly as you would be with your own parents, their preconceived notions of what your race group is like will be proven wrong and they’ll gradually start to accept the relationship. This doesn’t mean you should allow them to disrespect you. In the case that they’re completely racist and unwilling to change, it might be better to cut your losses. Your partner will understand.
In conclusion, it’s clear to see that we all still have a long way to go when it comes to combating racial bias. Hopefully by the time you have children it will be a thing of the past.