The rules of Black women and White men dating have changed. Rules like women you should play hard to get, men should always pay, and no sex on the first date is now outdated.
Today’s online dating rules are more easy-going. Read on to learn the latest 7 rules of engagement.
1. Modesty Doesn’t Work
There are many black women on interracial dating sites who start their profiles with turn-off statements such as: “I’m not very good at meeting other peoples.”
Well, if you are hell-bent on putting yourself down, for sure others wouldn’t find you very attractive and shy away from sending an invitation to chat with them.
2. Nor Does Bragging
Over-confidence is as much a turn-off as modesty. There’s a big difference in being confident and bragging. The first one can attract others toward you while the latter can drive away suitors even before you can shout, “Hey wait!”
3. Give specific information about your likes and dislikes
Ok, you love sunrise—but please don’t mention this in your profile. Instead give out specific information, like the best sunrise you have ever seen.
White men often approach those black women with whom they have some things in common. Therefore, it would be a great idea to talk about specific things like the kind of music or movies you like, because everybody can relate to such things. You can even list your most favorite tracks or movies.
4. Upload a nice profile photo
Research shows that black women who upload a profile photo are ten times more likely to be searched on online dating sites than those without a profile photo.
However, ensure you upload a nice, clear profile photo. Avoid photos that shout “I’m single and desperate to meet you” or photos that show you dead drunk or with almost nothing on.
5. But just one photo won’t do
OK, you’ve uploaded a nice profile photo, but how about posting some more snaps? It’s natural for someone who likes your profile photo to want to look at more snaps of you. If he doesn’t find them, he surely would be disappointed.
Therefore, post at least 3-4 photos of yourself.
6. No exes, please…
Many black women start talking about their exes or hang-ups at the drop of a hat. Avoid unloading your baggage on people you meet online. Everybody knows you have a past, but that’s not what they’re interested to know when they first start talking to you. Keep such intimate or disturbing details for later, when you are much surer of each other and want to take the interracial relationship to the next level.
7. Do away with the wishlist
Many dating profiles are no better than shopping lists. These women state things like: I’m searching for a white man with blue eyes, over 6’, from east California, earning so much money and so on. Such lists are a big turn-off. They make you come across as someone who is a control freak, and most white men don’t want to date such a woman.