Are you feeling disillusioned about love? Yes, losing someone you thought you loved is one of the most painful experiences in life. Some even say it’s more difficult to have “never loved” than to love and lose your partner in death. Not only are you deprived from experiencing love, but the sting of rejection can be brutal.
Whether you’re newly single again, divorced, or if you have never had a steady boyfriend or girlfriend, you surely know the inner turmoil we’re referring to. There is hope, however.
Finding New Love
Sometimes the answer lies in finding the PATTERN that seems to make you happy. Case in point: you fell in love with someone a couple of years ago. They didn’t love you back, or they stopped loving you. Heartbreak.
Maybe it even stings a little worse because it was an interracial relationship. Some couplings do end because of family opposition, stress, and incompatibility. You may be questioning whether you could ever love again or not.
But let’s think logically about this situation. What attracted you to that person in the first place? It wasn’t destiny. It was a pattern that you subconsciously or knowingly sought out. So ask yourself what did you find attractive about your crush or ex?
Was it the fact that they were black or white, and you craved an interracial romance? Was it the culture, the lifestyle or just the personality of the individual? While it’s true that every person is unique, you must understand that many people have similar characteristics; similar likes, habits and attitudes on the world.
It’s very likely that you will meet someone else, particularly if one of the best things about that previous relationship was a strong attraction to his/her race and culture. You can always try again and get the same chemistry going with someone new—someone who actually appreciates you, rather than someone who takes you for granted.
Giving Someone a Chance
Rest assured, there is someone out there who would love to go out with you. The population is immense and there are simply too many lonely people out there that WANT romance.
Now that’s not to say that everyone is going to be compatible with you. There are definitely lots of shallow singles out there who might not want to date outside their race. But what’s nice about modern technology is that you can still filter them out of your search, using a modern interracial dating website or app. Narrow down your search and only date people who are open-minded, already attracted to you (because they like your ethnicity and race!), and ready to find a meaningful relationship. Many find that tossing out the bad eggs of singles in the beginning is a much more productive way to date.
Sure, it hurts being struck down. However, by staying positive, and most importantly, getting yourself out there again, you can find happiness. And you can replace all these bad memories of love gone wrong with love gone wonderfully right!