Oct
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The Pros and Cons of Interracial Dating

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Of course, we all believe in equality. Interracial dating is, quite frankly, the reason we are all here today. We are merely the offspring of many interracial and multi-ethnic peoples mating and continuing the species. Dating a person of a different race actually helps with genetic diversity and is only helping to prolong and improve the human gene pool.

That said, not every person is up for the challenge of dating someone from another culture or even another color. Sometimes a person is just not attracted and so it’s a matter of preference.

Sometimes, however, a partner might decide that although interracial dating was fun, a long-term commitment might be too challenging. You might call these issues the “cons” of dating someone from another race. It doesn’t make it right and it’s certainly not kind, but it’s a cruel truth of this world.

Cons

You may have relatives, friends or work acquaintances that disapprove of the relationship. This can lead to turmoil and emotional pain. Even if you decide to keep seeing your partner, you may have to contend with family divisions. You may also have to deal with occasional funny looks from stranger or mean-spirited humor coming from friends and work colleagues. It’s something you might want to prepare yourself for, so that you won’t be caught off guard if you hear someone making a racist statement or using a hurtful stereotype.

Pros

The pros however, far outweigh the cons in most cases. Dating outside of your race exposes you to new culture, lifestyles, rituals and maybe even recipes that you will love. Dating a person of another race lets you learn and feel connected with someone you’re strongly attracted to.

If there are any friends or family members who have a problem, consider this an opportunity to enlighten them and show them that there’s nothing to be afraid of.

The good news is that although racism is still prevalent today, it’s not as widespread as it was in and before the 1960s. Racists usually keep quiet since they are the minority now. Most surveys of millennials, baby boomers and generation x-ers agree that most people today are perfectly fine with interracial dating.

It’s also easier than ever before to meet someone in your preferred race category. Using black women white men dating sites or apps, you can meet people in your area who have been prescreened to enjoy interracial dating.

This is a more productive way of mingling with other singles. If you go to a bar or go through a mainstream dating site you might, unfortunately, find people that do not date people outside of their race.

Some of these insensitive types will say so on their profiles, whereas others will “friend-zone” you quickly because of their own shortsightedness.

No matter. With a modern dating app, you can do a targeted search of people who are interested in dating people of any race (or your race specifically) and do want to meet you. That will make your first date together so much more exciting!

 

Sep
20

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Things to Remember when Dating outside your Race

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When you start up a new relationship, there are many feelings to process. From excitement to anxiety, to ultimate happiness to nervousness, the beginning phases of a relationship are a time worth remembering. Whoever you are dating, there are going to be certain things you need to keep in your mind. When two people come together from different walks of life, patience and compromise are required to make sure you can invest in a happy future together. This is particularly true when it comes to dating someone from a different racial or ethnic background than you.

Dating outside your race brings with it cultural interest and potential for learning moments with someone you deeply care about. Interracial dating is much more socially acceptable now and less frowned upon. However, as with any relationship, you need to remain sensitive and understanding to your partner.

To give you guidance and support in your interracial relationship, bear in mind some of the following tips.

Race does make a difference

The difference that race makes isn’t necessarily a bad one. Societal judgement and stereotypes can make dating outside your race seem like a bad thing. While there will be cultural differences, there is nothing wrong with this. In fact, interracial dating can become much more about sharing values, customs, and histories of your own race. Learning from your partner is a beautiful bonding experience.

There may be societal judgements

The truth is that we live in a socially judgmental world. While the world is much more of a melting pot today than it was in the past, there are still misconceptions about dating outside your race. Just bear in the mind that most of the negative judgement will come from older generations. Different generations have different expectations about relationships and dating. There may be some disapproval in your family even. Nonetheless, it is important to have confidence in your relationship around your family and in wider society.

Meeting the family is inevitably more complicated

There is always pressure when meeting your partner’s family under any circumstances. When you have to take into account the fact that your partner’s parents may speak a different language, have very different social outlooks, and have different religious practices than you, it can be even more intimidating. It is important to always be respectful when meeting your partner’s parents. Talk with your partner before the event occurs and make sure you know certain topics to steer away from. Respect and politeness is the ultimate goal in this scenario.

Prepare for some stupid questions

Once again, society has a strange perspective on interracial dating. This may lead to certain people asking ignorant and plain dumb questions. Even some of your friends may ask things that are essentially irrelevant. Some of these questions may include: what do you think your children will look like; what do your parents think; isn’t it easier to date within your race. Whatever the question is, just remember that your happiness is the answer in the end. If someone makes you happy, nothing should stand in the way of being together. Especially societal ignorance!

Sep
8

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Tips for Interracial Couples to Stay Together Long Term

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Finding someone who you want to have a long term future with is both scary and exciting. There are bound to be endless challenges and many compromises. This is true in any relationship. However, when the relationship is interracial, there are many more things to be mindful of.

Having a long term future in an interracial relationship is completely possible. It has been done by many before and can undoubtedly be done by you. Here are some tips to you help you find the right pathway to long term happiness in your interracial relationship.

Remain open minded

Even after you’ve had all the big talks about your different racial backgrounds and your ethnic identity, you still need to remain open minded. The longer you stay together, the more insight you’re going to get into each other’s cultural practices. This means that new issues may arise along the way. You always need to embrace these with an open mind.

Never stop learning

You have the unique chance to learn from someone you care about. This can be in regards to culture, language, and patience with society. As you and your partner continue on your pathway in your relationship, never stop learning from one another. Take the time to appreciate the lessons they can teach you and continue being happy to learn from this great source.

Keep being aware of society

It is important to understand the society you are living in. Although society shouldn’t be allowed to judge your relationship, it will. Understanding societal context can help you and your partner combat the ignorant comments and racial misjudgments. Doing this together will help keep you strong and bonded.

Talk about the future

If you’re in it for the long term, you need to broach the subject of the future. This often means marriage and kids. In terms of marriage, talk about what kind of ceremony you want and how you will incorporate both cultures. Discuss how a wedding will affect your wider families and what weddings and marriage mean in each of your cultures. Talking about kids is also important. Yes, you are going to have adorable mixed race babies. But how is culture going to affect their lives. What emphasis will you put on ethnic identity? Will you actively raise them in both cultures? These conversations may seem intimidating, but they need to happen for a long term mixed race relationships.

Accept each other’s families

Whatever the family dynamics are, you and your partner need to accept each other’s. This means embracing cultural celebrations with the family. If there’s a language barrier, it means working past this and finding a means of communication. Learning to enjoy the company of your partner’s family, and vice versa, is incredibly important in having a future together. You don’t want family to become a source of angst in your long term future together, so it is better to accept them early on in the game.

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Aug
17

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5 Inexpensive Interracial Date Ideas

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Sometimes you will find that selecting the venue of the date is more difficult than choosing the person you want to date. It is not easy to find great date ideas, particularly when the relationship is just in its budding stage.

This is the stage where every little thing you do is seemingly fraught with meaning. And when you consider the few hours you are going to spend together, it becomes even more important to make it worthwhile, but at the same time not put a big hole in your pocket.

But do not be under the impression that this happens only because of the racial differences between you and your date. This is a universal phenomenon and you have to just use some smart thinking.

Because interracial dating is still not accepted by all and there is high level of sensitivity, finding inexpensive yet effective dating ideas can be quite overwhelming. But don’t worry; we have just the right inexpensive ideas for you to try out.

Idea #1 Nature to the rescue
Nothing can beat the leisurely stroll you take on a beach or in a park. Natural sceneries are best as they are ever changing and keep the interest quotient high. You can talk about anything and everything under the sun this way and still not make it sound dull or boring.

And the best part is you need not spend even a cent on taking your date to these spots. These are also the most romanticized and favored places for lovers.

Idea #2 Sports activities
If you love sports activities, which are shared by your date too, you can use it as a date idea. Sports make you get all excited and exhilarated. Choose any of the activities like badminton, table tennis, etc. and remember to accept defeat gracefully. This will certainly score points for you on the dating front.

Idea #3 Swim for love
Swimming is a smashing dating idea. You can make it inexpensive by choosing a local club and you can also check out if your date looks good in swimwear! And if you are really adventurous, you can even try skinny dipping!

Idea #4Go on a picnic
This is the evergreen dating idea that works for all ages and generations. Pick out a nice, cozy, picturesque spot and plan a sumptuous lunch or brunch. With everything in place you can be sure of it being a big hit.

Idea #5 A long drive
Taking a long drive passing through scenic spots is a good and cheap date idea. You will not be disturbed by anyone and it will be just the two of you holding hands, talking or whatever that you like doing while driving. Of course, this will cost you fuel, but it will be worth it!

Going on a date is all about getting to know about the mutual things you share. You will be able to get an impression of who the person really is. And since this is not possible with a couple of dates, you need to go on more dates, which mean more money to spend which you unfortunately do not have. But with the above ideas of black women white men dating, you can manage to make the date a special one and not spend much.

 

Jul
25

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Black Women Dating White Men – Is it a Fad Or is This Mixed up Trend Here to Stay?

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Interracial couple sharing a phone in a train station while wait under an umbrella in a rainy day

Interracial dating has been a taboo subject in the past, even more so if it involves black women dating white men. Many of these interracial couples are often stigmatized and not generally accepted in society. However, with the rising popularity of movies which feature black women dating white men such as ‘Lakeview Terrace’, ‘Something New’, ‘Guess Who’ and many others, there has been increased acceptance for these couples in mainstream media. Despite a few people being bothered by black-white dating, people are increasingly changing their attitude and becoming more open-minded towards these interracial relationships.

So far, one of the most prevalent challenges a black woman faces while dating a white man is the cultural difference between the two races. In fact, it is not uncommon for the couple to be faced with vehement societal pressure and many deep-rooted prejudices. More often, the greatest opposition is bound to come from the couple’s family members and even close friends. In such cases, the family tends to openly oppose the interracial relationship since they fear that it will paint a negative image of the family in society. Many families are afraid of being judged by friends and extended family members when one of their children dates a person who is black. They also fret about their grand children being mixed race.  All these concerns are common and will probably be mentioned by the family of someone involved in an interracial relationship.

What about the societal pressure that comes from the black community when their daughter is dating a white man? The black woman will be judged as being a traitor and a “sell-out” who has abandoned her brothers. While men from the same community abandon the black women to date women from other races, it is ironic that the women involved in interracial dating in the same community will be ostracized. It is usually a common expectation that the black women dating white men should have waited for black men to return to them and be satisfied with being their partners instead of moving ahead to expanding their love options and entering into an interracial relationship. This double standard is completely unfair, since black men are known to openly state that they only date white women.

While it is true to note that many interracial relationships are faced with some trials and tribulations, there are quite a number of them that have successfully carried on with their relationship and are happily married. For such couples, they opted to ignore the external pressures and instead, move ahead to discover the many amazing benefits that came from learning, accepting each other’s culture and subsequently choosing to live a happy life together.

Interracial dating sites have been one of the major contributors of successful black women-white men relationships. With a plethora of dating sites created with the sole aim of connecting black women who want to date white men with white men who want to date black women, couples can link-up via the internet and successfully be able to establish a relationship. Today, interracial couples are connecting from all over the globe 24/7 and finding the partner of their dreams.

Jul
6

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How Common Interracial Relationships Have Become in the United States

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These days one can easily notice the rate at which interracial dating has skyrocketed especially in the United States. Often times, you see one or two interracial couples with their cute kids taking a stroll and you think,” Wow! So we’ve come this far?”

The contrast between the strict laws and discrimination of the past and the interracial lovers of the present is one that is encouraging and shows that we’ve moved past a horrible time in human history.

Interracial Dating in the US According to Stats

Statistics is a very handy tool when it comes to situation like this so we’ll be pulling up some very vital stats in regards to interracial dating and its evolution. First of all, it’s important to note that Interracial Dating in the U.S. was given the nod about 49 years ago and ever since, the public’s tolerance of marriages between people from different races has been on the increase.

In 1959, only 4% of Americans approved of interracial marriage but in 1971 after the government had given the green light on interracial marriage, the amount increased considerably to 29%. In 1985 the amount increased once again to 43% and continued to grow. Just recently in 2008, it became 77% and in 2013, 87%. Today, a staggering 87% of Americans approve of marriages between Blacks and Whites (According to Gallup), compared to the meagre 4% in 1959.

It is a great thing that Americans are now legally permitted to date or marry whoever they want to but the question is how many really go ahead with the marriage? According to different statistics taken by the United States Census Bureau in 2010, the amount of interracial couples in the U.S. rose from:

310,000 to 651,000 between 1970 and 1980 accounting for 1.3% increase in the total number of married couples,

651,000 to 964,000 between 1980 and 1990 accounting for 1.8% increase,

964,000 to 1,464,000 between 1990 and 2000 accounting for 2.6% increase, and

1,464,000 to 2,340,000 between 2000 and 2010 accounting for 3.9% increase.

From the statistics above, it can be clearly seen that interracial marriage in the U.S. gradually rose from 1.3% to 3.9% between 1970 and 2010. Out of the total interracially married couples in 2010, white men marrying black women is at 0.3% and black men marrying white women is at 8.6%.

One can easily see from the detailed statistics above that the reasoning of Americans in regard to interracial marriages has greatly changed but the rate at which the actual marriages occur is still rising. However, this census was taken in 2010 and happens to be the most recent available. Six year have passed and in addition to the several interracial dating sites on the internet these days, it is safe to conclude that the numbers will definitely take a giant leap when the next census comes up.

Jun
24

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6 things you should not do when you are seeking a black partner

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Interracial dating can be a magical experience, but there are some lines that should never be crossed. This is especially true if you’re looking to date a black man or woman. While you should never feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells when you’re in a relationship, there are certain topics and behaviors that are best avoided, especially at the start of your relationship. The following list will hopefully help you be a better partner to your black love interest.

  1. Talking about your races

This is something best avoided during the early stages and should only be discussed if your black partner starts the conversation. Conversing with a partner who you’ve been with for a while about this is fine, but it should never ever be a topic of discussion when meeting or visiting their family. You might think it will show how non-racist you are by mentioning it, but it’s more likely to offend.

  1. Stick to your native languages

Unless you were raised in the same area and speak the same languages, don’t try to strike up a conversation with someone in their native tongue if you aren’t a native speaker. At best, it can come off as being a bit clueless and condescending and at worst they might think that you are ridiculing them. Either way, avoid it for the first few dates.

  1. Try to avoid talking about cultural differences

This one is tricky. If you’ve been with your black partner for a while, you’ll have to partake in some of these cultural traditions sooner or later. By that point in time though, your relationship and mutual respect will be strong enough to withstand potential conflict.

At the beginning of the relationship or during the courting process, it’s a topic best avoided. Talking about cultural differences usually leads to arguments about whose culture does things better. Remember that there is no ‘better’ culture, only different cultures.

  1. Avoid taking them to events that you know they’ll dislike

This depends on who you are. Taking the extreme example, let’s assume you’re a redneck from a notoriously white and racist small town that regularly has square dancing events. Not only will your black partner not fit in at all, but they will most likely face harassment. You’ll struggle to find a black man or woman that enjoys square dancing too.

  1. Don’t marry before meeting each other’s families

Many people with black partners often get married before telling their parents that their partners are black. You might be scared of their reactions and this is fine, but they will definitely not be willing to accept your partner if you don’t include them in your wedding. Introduce your partner to your parents first and then let them decide whether or not they want to be a part of your lives. You’d be surprised to find how quickly prejudice fades away once they get to know your partner.

  1. Don’t be sensitive

You might think you’ve been discriminated against in the past, but you’ll be facing a lot more discrimination when you’re with your black partner. Be prepared for stares and rude comments, but don’t reply to them or let them affect you. Having a thick skin is crucial in an interracial relationship.

 

Jun
13

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What Can I Say to Family Who Doesn’t Like My Black or White Dating Partner?

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In can be heartbreaking, scary and very stressful when you discover that your parent, relative or close friend doesn’t approve of your interracial relationship. Whether you’re a black man dating a white woman or a white woman dating a black man, even while living in progressive times, it really hurts your feelings knowing that a loved one doesn’t seem too thrilled about the idea.

What do you do? Is it time to be aggressive and confrontational and call them out on their racism? That’s certainly what many people do. But it’s almost always the wrong way to handle the situation. Instead, think practical. Start with these steps.

1. Ask yourself if it’s really about the black or white thing or if it’s something else.

You may be surprised to know that sometimes a family member may have doubts about you, not the person you’re bringing home. Talk to your family member and find out what’s really bothering them. Maybe they’re wondering if you’re serious, leading your partner on, or are being impulsive. This can be determined with just one conversation.

2. Are they worried about how others will see you?

Many conservative parents actually grew up supporting desegregation so don’t conclude that their apparently racist views are bad. Maybe they’re just worried about how other people will see you, or how hard society will be on you. Maybe they’re concerned about the family of your partner and foresee trouble. It is true…sometimes you do have to prepare yourself to deal with the prejudices or offensive jokes of other people.

3. Do they not like some other aspect of your partner, besides race?

Give your family members some credit. What if they simply see traits in your partner that you currently cannot see? It might not be a racial problem at all. Maybe they simply recognize patterns or foresee potential problems in the long-term, should you stay together. What might help is to talk to this family member and ask them what problems they might foresee.

4. Are they nervous about it because they’ve never had an interracial romance in the family?

This can sometimes happen and parents or family members that express doubt about interracial coupling are sometimes fearful, not hateful. Maybe they’re thinking that your romance will be controversial and aren’t aware that the majority of people are far more tolerant now than in the 1960s. In this case, just be patient with them and assure them that you can handle the responsibility. Encourage them to be respectful and supportive and that you take the romance very seriously. Your affirmations will go a long way in building trust and getting them used to the idea of some day having a black or white son in law / daughter in law.

Many people have found rewarding interracial relationships by searching online, using web tools like our newest Dating App. We offer local matching, interest and values matching, keyword matching, fast picture matching, and many other options. It’s never been easier to find a black or white partner and follow up on what your heart wants the most. Give it a try today!

 

May
21

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5 Myths About Interracial Dating

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Though we’ve come a long way in terms of tolerance and diversity, at least according to law and basic respect, we do still have a long way to go in terms of fostering an encouraging environment for interracial couples. Many attitudes and viewpoints are still very offensive and they are more mainstream than you might think.

We hear of stereotypes all the time, and not just from older family members. We see them on television, in the movies, on websites and all over the media. It helps to break down some of these myths that are unfairly spread and explain why they’re inaccurate. Maybe this will help people to come around and fully embrace black and white romances without hesitation.

1. It’s usually NOT a cry for attention.

A lot of young people today are accused of dating interracially just for attention, just for the scandal or just to make a statement to society. While anything is possible, it’s about time we give our young ones a little more credit. Just because they can date someone outside their race doesn’t mean that’s the only motivation they have. Usually it’s just because they happen to like someone of a different race. They are free to explore their sexuality but not obligated.

2. It’s still noticeable.

While it’s true that it’s safe to date black and white partners now and segregation is a thing of the past, people still do stare and still may make offensive remarks, usually without even thinking about it. So yes, it is a better environment now, but the idea of “you won’t have any problem, any awkwardness, any confrontation” is not quite true. You do sometimes have to prepare yourself to deal with the reactions of other people.

3. If you like the race, you can’t possibly be racist.

It’s actually quite shocking how many interracial-leaning singles ARE racist and get away with saying some offensive things just because they’re dating someone of another race. If one partner holds onto racist attitudes or offensive humor, this can be very upsetting and all the more so if the partner doesn’t discuss it. By all means, talk things over and find out where any racist viewpoints may be coming from, if that ever becomes an issue.

4. Love is easy now that we live in a better world.

No, if anything the greater freedoms we enjoy to date black or white partners is blinding. Now we have the opportunity to foster more relationships built solely on lust that might end badly because of incompatibility. Remember that making a love connection and a long-term relationship has to involve intellectual and emotional connection. It has to be about shared values, shared goals and similar passions in life. Many people have been hurt, indeed marriages have ended, because a relationship was mostly based on sex and not true compatibility.

This just illustrates the importance of filtering out people who are incompatible, even if they are attractive. Differences in sexuality, religion, politics, lifestyle and family can be very difficult to overcome. Make sure you’re not wasting anyone’s time or your own by searching smart. You can use our new interracial dating app, which makes this process easy. Search for the type of person you want and this time, instead of settling for good enough, let’s make a perfect match!

 

Apr
27

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Questions interracial couples don’t want to hear

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Interracial marriage used to be illegal around 50 years ago in the United States, though now things have changed. People have become more accepting of interracial dating, but there will still be a few people who will make the interracial couple uncomfortable by asking them difficult questions. Sometimes people are genuinely concerned and ask such questions, but it may still be hard for the interracial couple to answer them. This is especially true if they are just in the initial phase and are bombarded with questions. Here are some questions interracial couples are tired of hearing and may not be comfortable answering.

1. What does your family think about your partner?

This is a very personal question and you should definitely not ask this if you hardly know the couple. Family views of an interracial relationship are always complicated and tangled and it is uncomfortable bringing up these issues. This is especially true if the families are not so happy with the relationship. Only ask this question if you are genuinely close to them and are concerned about them. And if they don’t answer, let it go and respect their privacy.

2. You are dating a white woman? Are they really trustworthy?

This applies to all questions involving stereotypes. Most people believe that people from a particular race will all have similar traits and categorize them according to stereotypes. Accordingly, people will believe anything about that person. For example: Asians don’t know how to drive well, white women can’t be trusted, Japanese are emotionless etc. These are all stereotypes. Everyone is different so avoid asking this question. Get to know the couple and then all your doubts will be put to rest.

3. Why go through all the trouble?

You may mean this with good intentions but it can sound racist. Telling people that they should try dating people from the same race sounds like you have something against the other race. Try to avoid asking this or rephrase it in a genuinely-concerned manner.

4. Won’t your children be bullied?

Have faith in today’s day and age and don’t just assume that people will make fun of children whose parents belong to different races. Even if they do, it is not the child’s fault but that of those immature people and it should not stop anyone from being with who they love. Children may be bullied for many reasons and race is not the be all and end all of every conversation.

5. Are you only into that particular race?

This is a very strange question to ask someone unless you are really close to them. People don’t choose a particular race when they are born and they certainly don’t choose an entire race to date. They may be slightly more attracted to people of a particular color or race but that doesn’t mean that they only date people from that race. The main thing to understand is that race is not the priority here; rather it is the mutual feeling of love and attraction.

These are some questions you should definitely avoid asking couples in an interracial relationship; or only ask them if you are sure they are comfortable enough to talk about it.

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